My grandmother was diagnosed with advanced dementia, a form of Alzheimers. On Sunday, March 16, 2014 I went to visit her and my grandfather with my mom and sister. It was a random visit because we were out and about that day and decided to stop by on our way home. Lo and behold, my grandma was not doing well. She was asleep, as she had been the few times I had seen her prior. I watched as the vein in her neck pulsated so that I could confirm that she was still alive. I made sure that I made promises to her that I was going to keep. I told her I would make her proud of me- she has always been one of my biggest supporters in everything I did from academics to sports to random business ventures I would make as a child. Now that I’m older, I was telling her about what I want to do (even though I know it will change at least slightly within the next 5 years). I had to make sure to tell her because I didn’t know how much longer she would be here. As I cried, talked to her, rubbed her head, and held her hand at her bedside, one thing I told her was that I wanted to start a blog called defineBLACK and use it to connect people throughout America and the world as a space to talk about blackness- our commonalities, our differences, and to express who we are defined by us individually and show that as much as we are the same, we are different. Among the many things I told her that day, telling her about my blog has led me here. My grandmother passed away yesterday morning, March 18, 2014. I promised my angel that I would start my blog so here I am, the next day no longer procrastinating, overcoming my fear of not knowing how this would turn out, making my grandma proud, and getting started.

Moral of the story: The time is now.

the time is now

Welcome to defineBLACK.


3 thoughts on “Promises

  1. This blog is an excellent idea! In a nation that is pushing toward post-blackness it important for us (the black race) to not lose our own identity and what it means to black. As you mentioned, we are all different yet the same but the country we live in places us into two categories when we are much more than that. Today, black people are either “the typical nigger” or “the exception to the rule” therefore it is up to us to educate the younger generation on what it means to be black before the identity of the black race is eliminated all together. Everyone has their own opinion of what it means to be black and this blog I feel is a good platform for others to share their thoughts and learn from other peoples perceptions of the black experience. Good job and good luck!

  2. Thank you! I appreciate the comment and support! I completely agree that we as black people are put into one of two categories and we are much more than that. Our hope is that we are able to show that there is no one way to define black, to our own people and people of other backgrounds as well. We want to show that as a race, we are one but our vast differences make us more complex than those two categories- which we believe is the purpose of the post-blackness movement.

    Peace, love, and knowledge.

    • Way to take that leap and put your work out there. That’s sometimes is the hardest thing… Your already a head of the game.

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